How to make the holidays sparkle when alone.

How to make the holidays sparkle when alone.

Bah

Humbug?

Do you cringe when the Hallmark Moment holidays approach?

Will you be alone and not looking forward to it?
Want to change that? You can if you really want to.

Pity Party

I won’t be seeing my son and his lovely partner until after Christmas. My electronic day timer note popped up to decorate. Snorting…I deleted that wondering what would be the point. No one would see them except me. (note to self for future reference: I’m worth doing it for – but that’s another blog) Bah Humbug!

This is the first Christmas since my Mom passed as well.

Today I thought about my stuffed Grinch and I put it on the staircase…which led to thinking about a few treasures I’ve kept from childhood – are you ready for this? Causing a Smile.

So I said to myself “Self, just get a few of your favourites out – you don’t have to do it all”. I dug out the decorations from the basement to find my fav’s. And then couldn’t resist bringing them all upstairs.

Most of my decorations are beautifully handcrafted by friends, my Mom and picked up in travels. Several of my friends are no longer. The day went from smiles from memories of years gone by to tears of missing them.

Several times I stopped decorating as I just didn’t have it in me. But I kept coaxing myself back.

“Christmas will always be as long as we stand heart to heart and hand in hand.”
–Dr. Seuss

Idea sparks

Then I wondered who else wouldn’t be seeing family? I decided to scope it out and invite them here for dinner.

No sooner did I get that thought solidified and things started to change. I discovered that there were several hikes going on in the area over the holidays and an out of town friend I haven’t seen for far too long emailed me to invite me for dinner. And there is a great house concert planned for one of the evenings.

The outcome?

When you feel grumpy or un-motivated just take one little step forward. If that’s all you accomplish that’s still great. But hopefully like in this case it will be the first step to changing the situation. Guess what? I ended up putting all the decorations up and it feels good!

The Bonus? I’ve discovered (or they discovered me) several amazingly fun events to attend – seeing old hiking pals and perhaps meeting some new. AND I then get to celebrate again when my son arrives!

Will it be easy? Nope – but it definitely will BE.

Your choice – pity party or Grande Party. Scrooge like feelings or Gratitude? I know which I prefer.

Change your Thinking – Change your Mood – Change your Life!

Mercury Retrograde.  Fact or Fiction?

Mercury Retrograde. Fact or Fiction?

Is it or isn’t it?

Mercury while in retrograde is said to rule in miscommunication, misinformation, misunderstanding and perhaps a host of other mis’ near and otherwise.

It is a time where it is said that contracts should not be signed, major decision not made.  More of a time for reflection, fine tuning ideas, working out details before launching.

Retrograde fever

I’ve often joked about the retrograde but this time……it’s got me.  It seems that every time I say anything in person or print, write a post or comment on someones, try to do anything techie it backfires and I end up trying to explain what I really meant.   Even in retrospect I cannot for the life of me see how things became so misconstrued.  Hey!  See the pattern here – yet another mis.  Misfiring everything.

“Adulthood didn’t make sense until I learned about Mercury in retrograde”

What a great time to have launched a new online program.  As we speak – ok it’s me doing the speaking – I cannot access the dashboard of one of my websites.  I haven’t changed anything, haven’t messed with the inner workings – nada.  Just decided to not give me access.

It’s ok though – it’s only the website I run my online courses through.  Argh!

I think I’m going into hibernation until this passes.  All has just been too bizarre.

What has gone awry in your world?  Please share – they say misery loves company – and I could use a little commiserating at the moment.

Just be careful what you say – I may misconstrue!    And hang on ……it will be over by Dec. 23.  Anyone want to run away until then?  Oh yes, forgot – travel is not advised during a retrograde.

All shenanigans aside……this is the perfect time to go inward, purge, reflect, cleanse and only then start to form loose plans for your future.  No active actions steps yet – just plotting and scheming.

How to make Blessings out of Ordinary Opportunities

How to make Blessings out of Ordinary Opportunities

Ordinary Opportunities Turned into Blessings

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May 2017

The practice and blessings of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years.

Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

 

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

 

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

“Gratitude can turn common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.”

William Arthur Ward

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

 

There are many things to be grateful for: colorful autumn leaves, legs that work, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm jackets, tomatoes, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

 

  • Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.

 

  • Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.

 

  • Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.

 

  • Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.

 

  • When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.

 

  • Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude.

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