How to make the holidays sparkle when alone.

How to make the holidays sparkle when alone.



Do you cringe when the Hallmark Moment holidays approach?

Will you be alone and not looking forward to it?
Want to change that? You can if you really want to.

Pity Party

I won’t be seeing my son and his lovely partner until after Christmas. My electronic day timer note popped up to decorate. Snorting…I deleted that wondering what would be the point. No one would see them except me. (note to self for future reference: I’m worth doing it for – but that’s another blog) Bah Humbug!

This is the first Christmas since my Mom passed as well.

Today I thought about my stuffed Grinch and I put it on the staircase…which led to thinking about a few treasures I’ve kept from childhood – are you ready for this? Causing a Smile.

So I said to myself “Self, just get a few of your favourites out – you don’t have to do it all”. I dug out the decorations from the basement to find my fav’s. And then couldn’t resist bringing them all upstairs.

Most of my decorations are beautifully handcrafted by friends, my Mom and picked up in travels. Several of my friends are no longer. The day went from smiles from memories of years gone by to tears of missing them.

Several times I stopped decorating as I just didn’t have it in me. But I kept coaxing myself back.

“Christmas will always be as long as we stand heart to heart and hand in hand.”
–Dr. Seuss

Idea sparks

Then I wondered who else wouldn’t be seeing family? I decided to scope it out and invite them here for dinner.

No sooner did I get that thought solidified and things started to change. I discovered that there were several hikes going on in the area over the holidays and an out of town friend I haven’t seen for far too long emailed me to invite me for dinner. And there is a great house concert planned for one of the evenings.

The outcome?

When you feel grumpy or un-motivated just take one little step forward. If that’s all you accomplish that’s still great. But hopefully like in this case it will be the first step to changing the situation. Guess what? I ended up putting all the decorations up and it feels good!

The Bonus? I’ve discovered (or they discovered me) several amazingly fun events to attend – seeing old hiking pals and perhaps meeting some new. AND I then get to celebrate again when my son arrives!

Will it be easy? Nope – but it definitely will BE.

Your choice – pity party or Grande Party. Scrooge like feelings or Gratitude? I know which I prefer.

Change your Thinking – Change your Mood – Change your Life!

Mercury Retrograde.  Fact or Fiction?

Mercury Retrograde. Fact or Fiction?

Is it or isn’t it?

Mercury while in retrograde is said to rule in miscommunication, misinformation, misunderstanding and perhaps a host of other mis’ near and otherwise.

It is a time where it is said that contracts should not be signed, major decision not made.  More of a time for reflection, fine tuning ideas, working out details before launching.

Retrograde fever

I’ve often joked about the retrograde but this time……it’s got me.  It seems that every time I say anything in person or print, write a post or comment on someones, try to do anything techie it backfires and I end up trying to explain what I really meant.   Even in retrospect I cannot for the life of me see how things became so misconstrued.  Hey!  See the pattern here – yet another mis.  Misfiring everything.

“Adulthood didn’t make sense until I learned about Mercury in retrograde”

What a great time to have launched a new online program.  As we speak – ok it’s me doing the speaking – I cannot access the dashboard of one of my websites.  I haven’t changed anything, haven’t messed with the inner workings – nada.  Just decided to not give me access.

It’s ok though – it’s only the website I run my online courses through.  Argh!

I think I’m going into hibernation until this passes.  All has just been too bizarre.

What has gone awry in your world?  Please share – they say misery loves company – and I could use a little commiserating at the moment.

Just be careful what you say – I may misconstrue!    And hang on ……it will be over by Dec. 23.  Anyone want to run away until then?  Oh yes, forgot – travel is not advised during a retrograde.

All shenanigans aside……this is the perfect time to go inward, purge, reflect, cleanse and only then start to form loose plans for your future.  No active actions steps yet – just plotting and scheming.

How to make Blessings out of Ordinary Opportunities

How to make Blessings out of Ordinary Opportunities

Ordinary Opportunities Turned into Blessings


May 2017

The practice and blessings of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years.

Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.


But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.


That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

“Gratitude can turn common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.”

William Arthur Ward

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.


There are many things to be grateful for: colorful autumn leaves, legs that work, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm jackets, tomatoes, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude


  • Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.


  • Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.


  • Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.


  • Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.


  • When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.


  • Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude.

What’s in it for me?  Or why we give.

What’s in it for me? Or why we give.


The seemingly question of this decade…What happens if we Give instead of take? Watch this very insightful video (watch to the end it’s well worth it) to find out! The author of this video will be a great surprise to you I’m sure.

The choice is always ours to make.

Watch this video!

Let’s all do at least one good deed today – without expectation of return. How did it make you feel? Will you look or an opportunity tomorrow? And the next day and the next?

We don’t have to look far to find someone who could use a helping hand.  Do we assist or do we turn away?  Your choice.  It could make the world of difference to the person – you never know!

Music melts pain.  Perspective of Gratitude.

Music melts pain. Perspective of Gratitude.


Music melts pain.

How you ever noticed how fabulous music can make pain, worry, stress just vanish?  Perspective and mood change as well.  It is with gratitude that I tell this story.

I’ve had a few glitches from a snowshoe fall last week.  Of course not in the deeper snow in the bush but in the parking lot.  L  Yesterday I decided to break from far too much computer work and catch the MET Opera simulcast.  4 ½ hours of deeply moving music made the world disappear.  Then a spontaneous invitation to have dinner at a friends house was offered.  I had planned on getting back to the computer but…… always rules.

Lovely visit, wonderful meal and a sharing of their travels to Iceland stories vaporized that evening.  I’ve planned a trip to Iceland on the way to Sweden this spring therefore was very interested in their opinions.

This morning upon awaking I attempted to chastise myself for not getting as much done yesterday as planned.  However, soon found that feeding my soul yesterday gave me that much more oomph to forge ahead this morning.

As the afternoon approached, I again let the mind take over and started on the slide into grumpiness that I soon had to change and go out.  A friend had invited me to a classical concert.  We found out a few days ago that Hugo Wolf String Quartet had cancelled and I was wishing I could just stay in and make my mark in my online programming.  Of course I wouldn’t let a friend down and computer neck was starting up.  I was delighted to find that the substitute was the amazing Gryphon Trio.  Their selection of music and expertise was just what I needed.  By midway I had forgotten there was a world outside the hall, neck glitch was gone and I left there with a spring to my step that had been absent on the way in.

The point of this rambling is……NEVER turn down an opportunity to hear music of any nature, let alone world class performers.  You can never go wrong as music truly is a sure fire way to nourish your soul.  And for me, strings work their magic on my heart as well.

Everything is an energetic vibration – find the ones that resonate with you the most.

Go out and book a concert, listen to local music or just hug a musician.  Where would we be without them?



Can something be Exciting and Peaceful simultaneously?  Overcoming fear.

Can something be Exciting and Peaceful simultaneously? Overcoming fear.


Watch this video clip and decide for yourself.

Baumgartner’s space jump

How exhilarating and humbling!

This is how I view that life should be. The perfect job, relationship, hobby, event et al could be the exact combination needed of all.

Just think what being with a partner that gave you the comfort of your favourite sweater but still after years ‘made your tail wag’. Dog lovers will get this one.

Wouldn’t it be lovely to go to work each day with that combination of belonging yet a touch of that little kid magic of what the day will bring?

I see kayaking in this light. I love the peace and connectedness of floating on a river (gives me the combination of both water and forest) coupled with the charge of turbulent water or waves/wind that I receive due to my inability to swim and fear of water.

I love being on or near the water but cannot put my face in. Which leads me to fear…..

We all have our fears. Although many might say they are irrational but to our minds, emotions and physiology they are very real. Why let fear stand in the way of doing something memory making?

Is overcoming fear possible?

I have overcome or at least side stepped some of my fears because I was born with insatiable curiosity. Wanting to know what something feels like or looks/sounds like overpowers my little voice telling me to not do it.

I have never regretted stepping beyond my fears and experiencing life – and oh what a great world we live in when we embrace it and explore.

But do keep in mind, that sometimes fear is a warning sign of danger or boundaries being overstepped. More on this later.

Be safe! Be fulfilled! Be challenged!

Now get out there and just do it.

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