How to make the holidays sparkle when alone.

How to make the holidays sparkle when alone.

Bah

Humbug?

Do you cringe when the Hallmark Moment holidays approach?

Will you be alone and not looking forward to it?
Want to change that? You can if you really want to.

Pity Party

I won’t be seeing my son and his lovely partner until after Christmas. My electronic day timer note popped up to decorate. Snorting…I deleted that wondering what would be the point. No one would see them except me. (note to self for future reference: I’m worth doing it for – but that’s another blog) Bah Humbug!

This is the first Christmas since my Mom passed as well.

Today I thought about my stuffed Grinch and I put it on the staircase…which led to thinking about a few treasures I’ve kept from childhood – are you ready for this? Causing a Smile.

So I said to myself “Self, just get a few of your favourites out – you don’t have to do it all”. I dug out the decorations from the basement to find my fav’s. And then couldn’t resist bringing them all upstairs.

Most of my decorations are beautifully handcrafted by friends, my Mom and picked up in travels. Several of my friends are no longer. The day went from smiles from memories of years gone by to tears of missing them.

Several times I stopped decorating as I just didn’t have it in me. But I kept coaxing myself back.

“Christmas will always be as long as we stand heart to heart and hand in hand.”
–Dr. Seuss

Idea sparks

Then I wondered who else wouldn’t be seeing family? I decided to scope it out and invite them here for dinner.

No sooner did I get that thought solidified and things started to change. I discovered that there were several hikes going on in the area over the holidays and an out of town friend I haven’t seen for far too long emailed me to invite me for dinner. And there is a great house concert planned for one of the evenings.

The outcome?

When you feel grumpy or un-motivated just take one little step forward. If that’s all you accomplish that’s still great. But hopefully like in this case it will be the first step to changing the situation. Guess what? I ended up putting all the decorations up and it feels good!

The Bonus? I’ve discovered (or they discovered me) several amazingly fun events to attend – seeing old hiking pals and perhaps meeting some new. AND I then get to celebrate again when my son arrives!

Will it be easy? Nope – but it definitely will BE.

Your choice – pity party or Grande Party. Scrooge like feelings or Gratitude? I know which I prefer.

Change your Thinking – Change your Mood – Change your Life!

Mercury Retrograde.  Fact or Fiction?

Mercury Retrograde. Fact or Fiction?

Is it or isn’t it?

Mercury while in retrograde is said to rule in miscommunication, misinformation, misunderstanding and perhaps a host of other mis’ near and otherwise.

It is a time where it is said that contracts should not be signed, major decision not made.  More of a time for reflection, fine tuning ideas, working out details before launching.

Retrograde fever

I’ve often joked about the retrograde but this time……it’s got me.  It seems that every time I say anything in person or print, write a post or comment on someones, try to do anything techie it backfires and I end up trying to explain what I really meant.   Even in retrospect I cannot for the life of me see how things became so misconstrued.  Hey!  See the pattern here – yet another mis.  Misfiring everything.

“Adulthood didn’t make sense until I learned about Mercury in retrograde”

What a great time to have launched a new online program.  As we speak – ok it’s me doing the speaking – I cannot access the dashboard of one of my websites.  I haven’t changed anything, haven’t messed with the inner workings – nada.  Just decided to not give me access.

It’s ok though – it’s only the website I run my online courses through.  Argh!

I think I’m going into hibernation until this passes.  All has just been too bizarre.

What has gone awry in your world?  Please share – they say misery loves company – and I could use a little commiserating at the moment.

Just be careful what you say – I may misconstrue!    And hang on ……it will be over by Dec. 23.  Anyone want to run away until then?  Oh yes, forgot – travel is not advised during a retrograde.

All shenanigans aside……this is the perfect time to go inward, purge, reflect, cleanse and only then start to form loose plans for your future.  No active actions steps yet – just plotting and scheming.

Full Moon Ritual for Manifesting

Full Moon Ritual for Manifesting

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December 2017

 

Use the power of this last Super Full Moon of the year.  Combined with a Mercury Retrograde we have quite the powerhouse here!

Don’t let the Retrograde scare you.  Use it with the Moon power for closure.  Make a tally or run through the past year or so to find whatever has not been dealt with.  Use this time to complete tasks, close out that which is non-beneficial and get ready to move forward.
This is a time to go inwards.  Retrospection can give you the clarity you need.

Once the purging is complete then move into planning mode.  Don’t be active in your life yet – quietly and thoughtfully map out where & how you want your life to be for 2018 and onward.  Do a loose plan/guideline/goal-setting always leaving space for fluidity and change.

Here is a Full Moon Ritual I love and find quite powerful.

You will need a Full Moon and coins (I used dimes – why I don’t know just do)

You need to be out in the open preferably on or your balcony or patio.

“There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls.”

George Carlin

Start by grounding yourself using whatever method works best for you.

Take your coin and let it absorb the moons energy by placing in a window or if you are outside already you can put it anywhere. Leave it here for about ½ hour.

Ask the coin to connect to the moon.

After ½ hour, hold the coin between your palms and declare what you want to release and what new you want to bring in.  Imagine (visualize) your desired outcome.

Throw the coin towards the moon and say:

 

“All my concerns and wishes

I release to you, Grandmother Moon

Fill them with love and give them light

For the highest good of everyone involved”.

 

Don’t try to look where you coin fell or landed.  Just let it be.

Thank Grandmother moon and absorb her energy.

When I did this the first time,  I cut the grass the next day.  I was being greedy so did 3 different things and used 1 dime for each.

When I cut the poor excuse of grass they were all gone!  My grass that was left after the summer drought was so thin and sparse that there is no way they could be hiding.

Where did they go?  How cool is this?

Rekindling & Simplifying is the name of the game

Rekindling & Simplifying is the name of the game

Bite Size Resolutions – Day 4

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Today we will reinforce rekindling with the added attraction of simplifying.  It’s the name of the game.

My Sister and I love to cook, create & entertain.  Our plans for a family gathering started off as a 5 course meal.  All these great recipes were dug out or found anew.

 

Simplify dinner

My mind and heart (I do love to create in the kitchen) was aglow and running rampant.  As the week moved onward my schedule thickened leaving me a little less enthusiastic,  the menu started to morph.  And morph some more……and again.  All motivation to work really hard lost to the wind.

Yes, we ended up being fed – however, only 3 courses and not 5.  Some of the more elaborate menus were switched out for ones I could make a day ahead and have at the ready.  My perspective was changing.

” Our life is frittered away by detail… simplify, simplify.”

Henry David Thoreau

The same plan was put into operation at a dinner I hosted the other night.  Menus downsized, plans became simpler and I even graciously accepted the offer of one guest to bring dessert.

And you know what?  We all had a great time regardless of the fact that I had downsized the menu and choices.  Of course a little more wine and a great dessert make short work of any grumblings – if there were to be any.

Remember – it’s the quality of the company and conversation that really is key to a wonderful visit. At least that is  my viewpoint.  Less work = more enjoyment of your friends and family.

What will you recreate, morph or downsize in your life or lifestyle?

Keep the angels toss the energy vampires

Keep the angels toss the energy vampires

Bite Size Resolution Day 2

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MARCH 2017

What did you discover yesterday regarding the balance inequities in your life?

Today is the day to find some of the balance we found was lacking. Downsizing contact lists & finding the balance in relationships is the key today.

 

I found that although I do practice the balance concepts –  I need to divvy it up a little more beneficially.  I tend to go ‘all out’ in a fast a furious way to get a project completed (ok I confess….as a Gemini it is usually 6 projects at once).  Yep, I’ll be writing the segment on multitasking for me as well as for You.  😉

And then I take a day to play.

I strive to break up the tasks a little more by doing little play bits or rewards in between.  That way I won’t suffer fatigue, mental overload or stiffness from staying at task too long.

 

“Givers have to set limits because takers rarely do.”

Irma Kurtz

Relationships of all types, romantic, friendship or business need to be reciprocal in some way.  If they are not, or are draining your energy then they must be released.

 

Being reciprocal does mean “I give you…..you give back now”.  Again it is a balance.  If you find yourself always giving while the other is always taking, this has to stop.

 

This is not as Scroogey or cruel as it may seem.  It’s called self-preservation or honouring ourselves and our time & energy.

 

If you a prone to over-giving, taking back seat, feeling like a doormat…..another days Bite will cover this.

Actionable steps:

  • Today I will continue to downsize my contacts; personal, business, emails newsletters, etc.  This seems to have evolved naturally in the past ½ year, but more needed.
  • This morning I’ve been unsubscribing, declining invitations to events that my heart isn’t in, and generally formulating a plan as to where/how I wish to spend my time and efforts.

 

 

What’s in it for me?  Or why we give.

What’s in it for me? Or why we give.

 

The seemingly question of this decade…What happens if we Give instead of take? Watch this very insightful video (watch to the end it’s well worth it) to find out! The author of this video will be a great surprise to you I’m sure.

The choice is always ours to make.

Watch this video!

Let’s all do at least one good deed today – without expectation of return. How did it make you feel? Will you look or an opportunity tomorrow? And the next day and the next?

We don’t have to look far to find someone who could use a helping hand.  Do we assist or do we turn away?  Your choice.  It could make the world of difference to the person – you never know!

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